Changing Your Mindset: How to Overcome Feelings of Inadequacy
Explanation of the common struggle of feeling not good enough:
Professional women often find themselves facing the overwhelming feeling of not being good enough, whether it's in their careers, relationships, or personal lives. This feeling can stem from a variety of sources, such as societal expectations, past experiences, and internalised negative beliefs. It can manifest as self-doubt, feelings of inadequacy and a lack of confidence.
This feeling can hold them back from reaching their full potential and can make them feel like they're not good enough. It can affect their decision making, productivity, and happiness. Many women struggle with this feeling, and it's important to learn how to change your mindset when you don't feel good enough.
It's important to also mention that feeling not good enough is a natural emotion that everyone experience and it's not something to feel ashamed about, recognising this feeling and seeking help to overcome it is a courageous act towards self-improvement.
Overview of the strategies to change the mindset that will be discussed in the blog post:
- Positive affirmations
- Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
- Other strategies that can be used to build confidence and overcome self-doubt
Explanation of what mindfulness is and how it can help with the feeling of not being good enough:
MINDFULNESS is the practice of bringing our attention to the present moment and focusing on our thoughts, feelings, and sensations. By becoming more aware of our thoughts and feelings, we can become more mindful of the patterns of thinking that contribute to the feeling of not being good enough. This awareness can help us to be more mindful of our thoughts and to choose to focus on more positive and empowering thoughts.
Techniques for practicing mindfulness in daily life:
- Deep breathing exercises
- Mindful walks
Amongst the other techniques BREATHING exercises are key in mindfulness practices. By focusing on the breath and bringing your attention to the present moment, it can help to calm the mind and reduce stress. It's important to find a technique that works best for you and to make it a regular part of your daily routine.
Examples of how mindfulness can be used in different situations:
Mindfulness can be used in many different situations where the feeling of not being good enough arises. For example, it can be used to manage stress, improve focus and concentration, and overcome negative thoughts and emotions.
Tips for getting the most out of mindfulness:
- Set aside regular time each day for practice
- Start with short practice sessions and gradually increase duration
- Be patient with yourself and do not get discouraged if you find it difficult to quiet your mind
- Practice regularly to improve mindfulness skills over time
To get the most out of mindfulness, it's important to set aside regular time each day for practice. Additionally, it's helpful to start with short practice sessions and gradually increase the duration of your practice. Also, it's important to be patient with yourself and not to get discouraged if you find it difficult to quiet your mind at first. Practicing regularly will help you to improve your mindfulness skills over time.
Explanation of what positive affirmations are and how they can help with the feeling of not being good enough:
Positive affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves with the intention of changing our internal dialogue and replacing negative thoughts with more positive and empowering ones. They can help to build confidence and overcome self-doubt by promoting a more positive and empowering mindset. Additionally, by repeating positive affirmations regularly, we can reprogram our subconscious mind to believe in them, this is known as subconscious reprogramming.
Examples of positive affirmations that can be used:
- "I am worthy of success and happiness"
- "I am capable and strong"
- "I trust in my abilities"
- "I am enough"
Tips for creating and using positive affirmations effectively:
- Make them specific, positive and in the present tense
- Repeat them regularly, ideally several times a day
- Write them down and post them in places where you will see them often
- Pair positive affirmations with visualization
- Remember that reprogramming the subconscious mind takes time and consistency
To create effective positive affirmations, it's important to make them specific, positive, and in the present tense. It is paramount that it should be something that you can actually BELIEVE.
"you will see it when you believe it" ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
If you can't believe it, change it and choose something that it's easier for you to believe.
To get the most out of positive affirmations, it's important to repeat them regularly, ideally several times a day, in order to reprogram your subconscious mind. It can also be helpful to write them down and post them in places where you will see them often, such as on your mirror or on your refrigerator. Additionally, it can be useful to pair positive affirmations with visualisation, in which you imagine yourself already having achieved the positive outcome.
Feel the uplifting emotion inherent the affirmation
Note: It's important to mention that the process of reprogramming the subconscious mind is not an overnight process and it takes time and consistency to see the results.
Explanation of what self-compassion is and how it can help with the feeling of not being good enough:
Self-compassion is the practice of being kind and understanding towards ourselves, and recognizing that we are doing the best we can with the resources we have. It's an important aspect of building confidence and overcoming the feeling of not being good enough. When we practice self-compassion, we are more resilient in the face of adversity and more likely to bounce back from setbacks.
Techniques for practicing self-compassion:
There are many different techniques for practicing self-compassion. Some examples include: speaking to yourself in a kind and understanding manner, treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend, and acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks.
Tips for being more compassionate towards yourself:
- Recognise that everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks
- Be kind and understanding towards yourself
- Speak to yourself in a positive and supportive manner
- Practice self-compassion regularly
- Remind yourself that you are doing the best you can with the resources you have.
To be more compassionate towards yourself, it's important to recognize that everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks. It's also important to be kind and understanding towards yourself, and to speak to yourself in a positive and supportive manner. Additionally, it's helpful to practice self-compassion regularly and to remind yourself that you are doing the best you can with the resources you have.
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Explanation of what EFT is and how it works:
EFT, also known as "tapping," is a simple yet powerful self-help tool that can help to release negative emotions, limiting beliefs, and physical sensations associated with the feeling of not being good enough. It is based on the principle that negative emotions are caused by a disruption in the body's energy systems, and by tapping on specific acupressure points on the face and body while focusing on a particular issue or emotion, we can release the negative energy associated with it.
Step-by-step instructions for using EFT to release negative emotions and limiting beliefs associated with the feeling of not being good enough:
To use EFT, begin by identifying the negative emotion or limiting belief that you want to release. Once you've identified it, rate the intensity of the emotion on a scale of 0-10. Next, tap on the "karate chop" point (the side of your hand) while repeating a set-up phrase, such as "Even though I feel not good enough, I deeply and completely love and accept myself." Next, tap on the remaining EFT points while repeating a reminder phrase, such as "not good enough." Continue tapping and repeating the reminder phrase until you notice a decrease in the intensity of the emotion.
Examples of how EFT can be used in different situations:
EFT can be used in many different situations where the feeling of not being good enough arises. For example, it can be used to release negative emotions and limiting beliefs associated with public speaking, job interviews, or dating. I recommend seeing an EFT professional to really experience the powerful effects on this technique.
Tips for getting the most out of EFT:
To get the most out of EFT, it's important to be as specific as possible when identifying the negative emotion or limiting belief that you want to release. It's also important to be consistent with the tapping and to practice regularly. Additionally, it can be helpful to consult with a qualified EFT practitioner for guidance and support.
Other strategies that can help with the feeling of not being good enough:
Some other strategies that can help with the feeling of not being good enough include: setting realistic and achievable goals, surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people, practicing self-care, and seeking professional help.
Examples of how these strategies can be used:
Setting realistic and achievable goals can help to provide a sense of accomplishment and progress, which can boost confidence. Surrounding yourself with positive and supportive people can help to lift your mood and provide encouragement. Practicing self-care can help to maintain a positive and healthy mindset, and seeking professional help can provide additional guidance and support.
Tips for getting the most out of these strategies:
To get the most out of these strategies, it's important to be consistent in their implementation. For example, setting goals and working towards them on a regular basis, spending time with positive and supportive people, practicing self-care regularly, and seeking professional help if needed. Additionally, it's important to be patient with yourself and to remember that change takes time and effort.
Recap of the strategies discussed in the blog post:
- Positive affirmations
- Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
- Additional strategies
In this blog post, we have discussed several strategies that can help professional women overcome the feeling of not being good enough, including, mindfulness, positive affirmations, self-compassion, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and other additional strategies.
Encouragement to use these strategies to overcome self-doubt and build confidence:
By using the strategies discussed in this blog post, professional women like you can overcome self-doubt and build confidence in themselves. Remember to be consistent in the implementation of these strategies, and to remind yourself that you are capable and worthy of success and happiness.
It's also important to remember that seeking professional help is not a sign of weakness. I am a COACH and a trained professional who can help you to identify the underlying causes of your self doubt and develop a personalised plan for managing these emotions.
In conclusion, breaking the cycle of not feeling good enough takes time and effort, but IT IS POSSIBLE. By practicing all the above tools and seeking professional help.